Thursday, November 9, 2017

ABOUT SNOWFLAKES AND TUNNELS

Joella sent me this one from Colorado:

I’m outside and it’s cold.  As I look up, I notice that it’s starting to snow.  It’s not heavy snow so I can still sort of see individual snowflakes slowly falling down from the sky.  I have a few friends with me, and there are other people outside.  Most of us are wearing black clothing.  I open my mouth and some of the snowflakes come into my mouth.  The snowflakes get fatter.  In the distance, I see a tunnel, and I decide to see where it leads.

A friend comes with me and as we near the end of the tunnel, we notice that it’s snowing at this end too, but something’s not right.  As I exit and look at the snowflakes I notice they’re not real… they’re plastic.  I decide I don’t want to stay there, and so we go back through the tunnel. When we exit back to where we were before, we stop at the edge of the tunnel and I notice the snowflakes have gotten larger.  In fact, as I stand there, the snowflakes keep getting larger and larger so that I even see the patterns of each one.  They’re each unique and very beautiful.    Beyond where I stand, I see other people in the distance also admiring the snowflakes.  That’s the dream.

I thought this was a beautiful dream, and I immediately got a sense of what Joella’s psyche was trying to tell her.  First, I had to ask Joella some questions:

1)     Has she recently experienced a setback, one which might have caused deep wounds and even depression?  She admitted she had just gotten out of a very hurtful relationship.
2)    Has she been seeing a therapist?  Again, she admitted she’d been seeing one since the breakup with her boyfriend.
3)    How soon after the event did she begin to see the therapist??  She replied that it took a few months.  For a long time, she couldn’t even bear to think about what had happened to her, because it hurt too much.
4)    Is this the first time she has experienced a romantic relationship like this?  It turns out her previous relationships ended on a similar note.

Her answers confirmed what I sensed about this dream.  The most important element are the snowflakes.  If Joella’s environment had been hot and fiery, I would say to her that she’s in a very emotional state, filled with pain, anger and hatred about something.  The fact that her environment is cold suggests the opposite.  The falling snowflakes suggests her thought patterns.  She is currently in a very cool, calm and rational state of mind.

So why would her psyche send her this dream at all?  The answer is that she is seeking assurance that she has indeed recovered from an event which caused her deep pain.  The friends who are with her are the ones who have supported her through this process and those who have experienced similar events.  The “friend” who goes into the tunnel with her is someone who has consciously chosen to traverse through the dark shadows of the soul with her in order to help her find clarity.

There are few people who will immediately enter the tunnel in her dream, because it means re-living all the ugly facts of the breakup.  When we are in pain, we generate a lot of self-recrimination.  We ask ourselves, “Am I such a horrible person that I deserve to be treated this way?”  “What’s wrong with me?”  “Am I so stupid that I could love a man who would abuse me?”

It takes courage to enter that dark tunnel and confront the shadows within.  The wonderful thing is that, having chosen to make that journey of the soul, at the end of it, Joella recognizes that the place to where the tunnel leads is “plastic.”  Unlike snowflakes, “plastic” is artificial and man-made.  Ideas of low self-worth and of being “stupid” are “plastic” ideas.  They are not the real “truth.”  They are thoughts which are manufactured by someone who is in a serious state of self-negation.

When Joella takes a snowflake into her mouth, she is agreeing to experience coolness… rationality.   Going through the tunnel is the process of integrating that coolness into her system.  This dream is showing Joella that she has made her way back out of that dark tunnel.  It’s behind her now, and the most beautiful thing is that she now also recognizes her behavior PATTERNS.  Everyday friends and family members can provide therapy, but a certified therapist is trained to help a client see the patterns of repeated bad experiences.  Not only was Joella courageous, she was smart.  She knew she needed help and she got it. 
  
Her psyche was sending her a message, “Look at you, girl!  You’ve been through a dark journey and now your mind is so cool and clear you can even see the beautiful patterns of your life.”

Some of you might disagree, but, to me, life is about experience.  It’s a journey over bridges and under tunnels, through deserts and snowstorms, but if at the end of your journey you can appreciate the beautiful patterns which affect the very air you breathe, you’ve fulfilled your divine purpose.


Happy snowflakes to each and every one of you!  

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

ABOUT BEING VIOLENT IN DREAMS

This one is from Anna in Wyoming.  She warned me that it’s pretty violent and she says she rarely has violent dreams.  She could never be violent like this in real life.

I’m at my apartment.  My wife isn’t home.  Two intruders break in.  They push two women inside my apartment with me.  They’re armed and dangerous.  I try to stay calm so I don’t trigger any violence from the guys.  While Intruder #2 watches the other two women, Intruder #1 hands us a paper with letters and numbers on them.  He doesn’t explain anything or even what the numbers and letters are.   He just tells us to decode it and we have 3 hours to decipher what those letters and numbers mean.

Our psyches want to wake us up as to what’s happening in our lives.  Sometimes there are heavy-duty feelings going on which we brush away.  There are signs around us which we ignore because we just don’t want to deal with problems or issues.   This dream comes to Anna because she needs to pay attention to an issue in her life.  The violence in the dream is a very strong signal that there’s something serious she needs to address.

I’m thinking there’s an issue at work which ultimately affects her home life, which is why the scenario is her apartment.  I’m thinking this is work because she’s asked to decipher letters and numbers with two other women, an activity one does at work rather than at home.  The fact that her wife isn’t home suggests that it’s a personal issue for her and her wife doesn’t factor into the ultimate choices she has to make to correct this problem.  She has to live with it herself.

It sounds like the issue at work relates to men bullying certain women (the dreamer plus two others) to do the actual hard work while they luxuriate in less challenging work (baths and TV).  In general, “bosses” relegate because they have more important things to do, but it sounds like that isn’t the case here.  It isn’t as if Intruder #1 is engaged in more important work (unless he’s really really dirty).  In fact, since he is taking a bath, the implication is that he is indeed “dirty,” but he has the means to “wash away” any wrongdoing which might otherwise make him feel guilty.  He has found a way to “justify” to himself his unfair bullying of women.  After all, he doesn’t bully the man in this scenario.

If all they’re gonna do is threaten us, I can deal with that.  But now they want us women to decode some kind of secret message.  For all I know, it’s a recipe to make a bomb or something, so I decide I don’t want to do it.  I decide I’m going to eliminate the problem.  It’s my apartment so I know there’s something I can use as a weapon.  For weapons all I had were the knives in the kitchen I use for cooking.  I really don’t want to stab anyone because it gets bloody.

Under my bed is a metallic bat.  By now, the guys think they’ve got us in control, so Intruder #1 is in the bathroom taking a bath in the tub.  Intruder #2 is in the living room with us watching TV, keeping an eye on us as we decode the message.  I sneak away and get the bat and return to conk #2 unconscious.  Then I go into the bathroom and start bashing at #1’s head.  As he curls up his body to protect himself, I see his testicles and hit at them too.  Now he’s unconscious.  I don’t know if he’s dead or not.

It sounds as if it were just rude words or insulting innuendoes Anna can take it.  However, when it comes to doing the actual work and the male boss doesn’t even respect the women enough to explain it, that’s something else.  It’s no longer personal, but business.  Anna doesn’t like that.  She’s not going to “stab” the man in the back (i.e., go behind his back and tattle on him to a superior).  She’s going to handle it herself.  It’s her apartment, which suggests the work is in her field of expertise, and that she's "at home" with what she does at work.  Her knowledge and expertise create a weapon (the bat) which she can use to bash his head (screw up his thinking).  For instance, she might point out the discrepancies in his work which would make it impossible for her and the two other women to do their work. 

When he curls up his body to protect himself, exposing his sexist male attitudes (he might taunt her that she’s being bitchy because she’s on her period), she bashes that too.

Anna, if this were all, I would say, “Go, girl!  Defend yourself before things get worse.”  However, we have to consider the rest of the dream.

I run to the phone and call 911 and explain there’s a man in my tub and I don’t know if he’s dead or just unconscious.  When I give the address to the woman who answers, she tells me someone else has already called and an ambulance is on the way.  I’m surprised because no one else is in the house.  But I hang up and check it out.  Sure enough, there’s a woman in the second bedroom.  Apparently, my wife and I had rented that extra room out to one of my wife’s friends, Bev.

In real life, Bev is a therapist.  In the dream, she admits that she came home hours earlier.  She thought there were weird things going on.  She felt it wasn’t her place to intrude, but she did call 911.  I tell her about what I’ve done, and she assures me the police and an ambulance are already on their way.  She calmly asks me questions the way a therapist would.

This adds to the previous message.  There are other ways her psyche could have guided Anna on how to resolve her issues.  Maybe she could have tied up the two intruders and then called in the police to handle it.  Instead, she gets pretty violent.  Anna swears she isn’t violent in awake life.   So her psyche is telling her something.  Maybe she tends to over-react.  Maybe she sees sexist attitudes as a judgment on her being in a gay marriage, and that really pisses her off.

Now comes the message about the renter, Bev the therapist.  She rents the extra bedroom to a friend of her wife’s.  Her psyche is telling her there is a possibility that her wife’s friend has noticed Anna overreacting in some situations in real life.  Maybe she suspects Anna needs therapeutic help.  There is also a message symbolized by the 911 woman already having been notified.

If indeed I’ve interpreted the dream accurately so far, then it follows that a woman in high authority already knows about the sexist bullying occurring at her place of work.  She has already set some corrective measures in place.

At this point, Anna can set aside the bullying problem and focus on herself.  She needs to ask herself if she overreacts sometimes to men who tend to be sexist… and if her anger pushes her to the point of literally wanting to “bash” their heads in.  Her psyche says this might be the case. 

Anna, I would say to you that anger which isn’t expressed builds up until it becomes violent expression.  Don’t let this happen to you.   Why should you ignore rude and insulting behavior just to avoid confrontation.  Why not say, “Hey, Jake, it’s a free country and you can say what you want whenever you want.  Just take note I don’t like or appreciate what you just said.”  Spoken in a calm, non-threatening way, this is absolutely appropriate.  If you need to talk to a therapist to help you process your hidden frustrations, that’s a wise decision to make and nothing to be ashamed of.

Snoozle on it, Anna, and wishing you happier dreams ahead.

Friday, August 11, 2017

ABOUT EYEBROWS

This one is from Grace in North Dakota:

I’m dreaming about my eyebrows.  I have light eyebrows and tend to fill them in with brow pencil.  The eyebrow over my right eye is done and looks good.  It’s curved and nicely shaped.  As I work on the eyebrow over my left eye, my hands aren’t too steady and the shape goes out of whack.  The shape is all wrong, angular and crooked and lacking any grace.  I wake up, wondering if eyebrows have a meaning in dreams.

A short and sweet dream but still filled with meaning.

Among the many metaphysical books I’ve studied, one was about facial symbolism as investigated by the Chinese.  The shape of the face, the mouth, nose and eyes, the appearance of moles in certain locations of the face, the groove under the nose, the nostrils, fa-ling lines (curves from edge of nose to around mouth)… all these depict an aspect of a person’s character.

Eyes of course are traditionally the gates which allow perceptions to enter so that the mind can act upon what the eyes see.  Then we react to whatever comes into the gates of our mind.  Our beliefs and attitudes trigger reactions, thoughts and feelings about what we perceive.

So what do eyebrows mean?  If the hair on one’s head symbolize the thoughts which the mind creates, then eyebrows are the ideas and beliefs which protect and enhance what one sees. 

Now we also have to factor in the right side of the face vs. the left side.  The right brain expresses on the left side of the body, which physically manifest the abstract, spiritual and emotional aspects of ourselves.  The left brain expresses on the right side of our body, which manifests as rational, logical and mathematical type of thinking.

Factoring all these things in, I suggested to Grace that since her right brow, which protects and “oversees” her right eye is well formed, she has found a nice balance in how she views and reacts to life in abstract, spiritual and emotional ways.  If someone insults her or gives her the finger or anything like that, she is able to gracefully process that fact emotionally and spiritually.  At the same time, her rational thinking (left eyebrow) about that event would be erratic and imbalanced. Using this example, her emotions would be balanced about the insult.  She would assure herself that it’s not worth getting upset about.  It’s a free country and people can say and do whatever they want.  She wouldn’t go into rage mode and attack the offender in retaliation.

However, the thoughts that are trying to rationalize (left eyebrow) the situation are askew and ill-shaped.  While she’s got her emotions in control, she’s also thinking, “What did I do to this person that they hate me?  Did I make a mistake in something I said or did which makes them react this way?  IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME?”

The mathematical formula Grace is using in dealing with events in her life does not add up.  A person’s reaction to her or how that person treats her may not necessarily be about herself.  Rather, it could just as easily be because the flaw exists in the other person who is acting in a way not rationally balanced.

My suggestion to Grace is that she hold her head up, suck in her gut and try to reshape that left eyebrow.  Start from scratch.  Wash away the brow pencil’s marks.  Grace, your psyche is telling you that you are misapplying belief systems ABOUT YOURSELF which are not true to your nature.  Do you believe that you’re weak?  That your character is flawed?  That you simply cannot discern truth when it’s intermixed with lies?   Take time to reassess yourself.  Maybe there’s nothing wrong with you at all.  Consider that the flaw is in the other people who treat you because of their own hangups and delusions. 

If you have made decisions which you now realize were mistakes, don’t be so hard on yourself.  You’re human.  That means failure and mistakes are a necessary process to achieve balance and grace.


Happy snoozling, Grace, and to everyone else out there reading these dream interpretations.  All is well with the world.

Saturday, June 10, 2017

ABOUT FRIENDS AND EVENTS

This one is from Malinda in Washington:

I’m in an underground garage with four of my friends.  Three of them aren’t clear to me, but this one friend, Rachel, has a strong presence.  I’ve known her a long time and she’s a tough cookie.  Her background is an interesting one.  Her family had a strong commitment to a political ideal in her native country and were in disagreement with the current government.  Her family was ultimately granted asylum in England and that’s where she lived for many years before I met her in Oregon where she ended up after her parents passed away.

We worked together for nine years and then I moved to Washington.  The thing that impressed me about Rachel is that she understood politics and diplomacy and such things.  Whatever the situation we found ourselves in, she would tell me what was REALLY going on and the underlying agenda beneath the event.  By the time I had this dream, while we were in touch, I hadn’t seen her in years.

Apparently, we were going to watch some kind of event in a large stadium.  I’m not sure if it was a rock group performing or some other type of event.  We five had come together in one car and were meeting some other friends at the event.  None of us was sure where our seats were, so we decided to split up into two groups to look for it.  The three others took off on their own search.

Rachel and I enter the stadium and there aren’t many people in their seats yet.  I follow Rachel as she leads me to where she thinks our seats are.  That’s where the dream ends.

This is a very interesting dream.  Several things are significant in the apparent message to dreamer Malinda.  First, the fact that her friend Rachel understands political thinking comes to attention.  Second, the fact that Rachel (not Malinda the dreamer) is the evident leader is important.

Generally, people become friends because there is a resonant aspect in common between them.  They act as mirrors to each other.  Opposites often attract because we often suppress a characteristic which is dominant in the other person.  In this case, I suspect Malinda doesn’t like to manipulate people or even be a leader.  Manipulation is inherent in “political” thinking.  One says and acts in ways which inspire and create followers.  A politician is nothing without his constituency.  Unfortunately, this often requires manipulation of people, facts and events.  It’s simply an aspect of leadership, and apparently Malinda’s friend Rachel is very good at this.

I suspect Malinda is in a situation (or soon will be) where she will be required to think politically.  She has the capacity, or she wouldn’t have been able to understand and appreciate Rachel and her skills.  This dream is telling Malinda that she is about to experience a life situation (event) where she needs to apply Rachel’s skills of perception and insight in order to accomplish her personal goals.  It might require manipulating circumstances or people to her advantage.  An owner of a business, a boss, a team manager – all these situations require a leader who’s willing to do what it takes to make a success of their joint enterprise.  Because she enters the stadium and is ready to find her seat, she has already committed to entering the arena where this “event” takes place.

Maybe Malinda will be promoted to a leadership position.  Or she is asked to direct a movie or take an important role in a big business.  Or, she’s about to be made a team leader of some project.  This dream, in essence, is Malinda’s psyche showing her a mirror of those skills which she has submerged for whatever reason.  She needs to bring those skills to the surface and integrate them into herself, and hopefully, accomplish that without losing the essence of her true Malinda self.

Did she initially submerge those skills because she’s afraid to be judged and criticized by others?  Or perhaps because she will be forced to make decisions which don’t appeal to her?  Or because she will have to be aggressive and forceful when she doesn’t want to be?  Leadership is not about you personally.  It’s more about being of service to those who follow you.

My suggestion, Malinda, is that you trust yourself.  Be true to the dictates of your soul truth, and you will not transgress beyond the boundaries of service to humanity.


Actually, that sounds like a good idea for the rest of us.  I’m going to snoozle on that.  Happy snoozlings to all you others out there.

Saturday, April 15, 2017

ABOUT THAT SNAKE IN THE GRASS


Rebecca from Maine sent me this dream:

I’m in Italy with some of my co-workers and we’re walking along the main grounds leading to a museum.  There’s a landscaped area of tall grass and flowering bushes which separates where we are from this beautiful fountain in front of the museum.  A walkway leads from our position and curves around the landscaped area at the fountain. I want to get a closer look at the fountain and I decide to cut through the tall grass.

One of my friends shouts out to me, “Be careful.  There are probably snakes in the grass.”  I go traipsing through the underbrush to reach the fountain.  Sure enough there’s a snake and it starts to crawl up inside my jeans, up my leg.  It bites me a few times and I grab the tail and yank it out and smash its head on the ground.  When it’s dead, I unzip my pants and pull it down.  There are about 10 bites along my leg and thigh.

People are watching and an Italian guy comes running into the grass shouting, “Call 911!”  The guy reaches me, pats my head and tells me in Italian, “Relax, it’s not a poisonous snake.  You’ll be all right.”  I get dizzy and pass out.  After a while, I regain consciousness in the dream and I feel fine.  Someone has pulled my jeans back on, and I’m in front of the fountain surrounded by my co-workers.  Some of them disapprove of what I did and give me dirty looks.  Others admire my courage.

This is definitely a work-related dream.  The fact that Rebecca and her co-workers are in Italy in this dream suggests that this is regarding a new project they’ll be working on, or an assignment which is somewhat “foreign” to them.

They know their goal, however, even if they’re not necessarily familiar with all the elements of it. Research (museum) will be required.  The end result can be beautiful and very emotionally satisfying (fountain).

Rebecca is a bit of a risk-taker.  Apparently there is a traditional pathway to reach their goal, but she likes short-cuts.  Apparently, she’s going to take a short-cut to accomplish her share of the work.  While the snake in the grass can symbolize someone in the group who sabotages her progress, it can also symbolize an aspect of herself which slows down her forward momentum.

Rebecca, I would ask you:

1)     Do you sometimes get frustrated with the time element of completing a project?
2)    Are you willing to sabotage teamwork progress in order to prove yourself a better worker than those around you?
3)    Do you often make decisions and “lead” others in ways which are beyond the “scope” of your job?

The fact that she pulls the snake out, kills it, discovers the “bites” and survives a non-toxic situation suggests she’ll ultimately triumph and reach her objective.  Since it’s an Italian who runs to rescue and comfort her, she can expect support to come from an “outside” source.  Meanwhile, her co-workers will have mixed feelings about her.

This is both a reassuring dream and a warning dream.  It reassures Rebecca she and her team will achieve their goal, despite some eventful dramas.  It also warns Rebecca that she needs to re-evaluate her role as a team player.  Is it really a good idea to go off “solo” in a rush to reach a goal?

Sunday, March 19, 2017

ABOUT BEST FRIENDS



Leonard from New Jersey couldn’t make sense of his dream so he sent me an email:

My best friend, Stallone, and I are playing basketball, sort of competitive with each other. It’s fun and we’re getting a good workout.  We’re always trying to take the ball from each other so we’re colliding and hitting against each other.  At some point we hit against each other so hard he breaks a comb I’ve got in my pocket.  I take it out and at first, I’m pissed, but it’s just a comb and it’s no big deal, so it’s all good.  Next scene, maybe a few months after the game, my friend casually takes out a new comb and hands it to me.  Says it’s to replace the one he broke.  I take it and it feels good he remembered.

A best friend is “best” because you enjoy his/her companionship, you really get along well, and you trust him/her.  It’s fun to hang out with such a friend because you have a good time, no matter what.  And, finally, you trust this best friend to understand the way you think and feel about things.  Of course, it usually gets competitive.  That’s part of the fun.

In this dream, there is an important clue, however.  The comb provides that clue.  A comb is used to “straighten out” and “style” your hair.  In dreams, the state of your hair reflects the way you think and the style reflects how those thoughts are expressed to the world.  Because Leonard’s best friend breaks his comb, the warning in this dream is that one of the games his best friend likes to play with him is “mind” games.  Breaking that comb suggests the best friend has no problem lying and deceiving him.  Maybe it’s a prank and for fun, or maybe it’s because he’s worried the “truth” might alienate Leonard. 

In any event, Leonard’s psyche is warning him of a characteristic his friend possesses.  After all, what may be a “funny” prank to his best friend might ultimately be hurtful or upsetting to Leonard himself.

Because Stallone replaces the broken comb, the “best” message in this dream is that Leonard’s best friend will always find a way to somehow “straighten out” any misunderstanding or breach caused by his untruthful communication.

Happy snoozzles tonight, everyone! 

Saturday, January 14, 2017

ABOUT JOBS, BOSSES AND YOGURT



Ruth from North Dakota sent this dream to me for interpretation:

I’m at a work event, and I’m puzzled.  I’m hanging out at a previous work place and not my current work place.   The workers are talking to each other and once  in a while, someone nods at me or greets me, but I’m no longer really one of them because I’ve moved on to a different job.  Then my current boss walks into the room, and I’m surprised.  I think, “What’s he doing here in my old workplace?”  He and some of the others exchange greetings, but that’s it.  He sees me and comes up to me and I’m still wondering why he’s at this workplace.  He says, “C’mon, let’s get some yogurt.”  We go into the kitchen and he opens the fridge and takes out two yogurts and gives one to me.  We sit down and eat our yogurts.  I’m wondering why everyone seems to know him and accept him as part of the workplace.

 Before trying to interpret the dream, I had to ask Ruth a few questions:  (1) Are you considering “moving on” from your current work situation… maybe even harboring regret at leaving an “old” workplace behind?  (2)  Is there a chance your new workplace is being bought out by a larger company?

She answered:  (1)  Yes, I’ve been unhappy with my current situation and sending my resume around.  In fact, I’ve considered reapplying to an old workplace.  (2) Yes, my current company is merging into a bigger one.

Okay.   Here’s the interp:  Since she’s sending her resume around, her spirit and commitment have already withdrawn from the current environment of her current workplace.  She no longer feels close to her co-workers which is why she feels distant from them. 

Then her “current” boss enters the picture and is recognized by the “old” co-workers.  Not only that, he’s familiar with the rules and routine of the “old” workplace.  The fact that he removes her from the “old” environment and gives her yogurt is significant.  Her psyche is sending her a message that her boss knows about her dissatisfaction in the current assignment and he plans to move her to a new assignment.

Since it’s an “old” workplace they’re leaving behind BUT WITHIN THE SAME BUILDING with established routines (free yogurt in the fridge for all employees), Ruth’s dream suggests that the merger will indeed succeed, and her boss has already considered her role in the work structure of the new merged  company.

Not only that, the fact that his act of reassurance is giving her yogurt, he intends to nourish her in the new merged environment.

ADDENDUM:  Ruth emailed me back after I sent her the dream.  She thanked me profusely, admitting that while she wasn’t happy in her latest assignment at work, she really liked and respected her boss.  She’s decided to hang in until after the merger.